tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4506995090336963455.post4453541652354826225..comments2023-03-21T05:49:21.694-04:00Comments on Seeking Avalon: Announcement / ThoughtsAvalon's Willowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07539301720154191607noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4506995090336963455.post-64581408837515009562008-07-23T14:21:00.000-04:002008-07-23T14:21:00.000-04:00This is fascinating... it explains why I get so ma...This is fascinating... it explains why I get so mad when my boyfriend gets letters where they fuck up his surname. It's not just that I'm shocked at the ignorance regarding how "van [example]"-type surnames work; it's that it feels like a disregard of him. <BR/><BR/>I also remember my frustration as a kid when people would call me "Angela" despite repeated correction. There were also people who'd say "Angelina" or "Angelique", because even for an uncommon name, those are apparently more well-known variants. I think this made me dislike my name; I wanted something which people wouldn't muddle up and which didn't feel so conspicuous....Angeline B. Adamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09193387146888000794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4506995090336963455.post-68653838616998906192008-07-23T11:46:00.000-04:002008-07-23T11:46:00.000-04:00Names have a great deal of power. I never knew why...Names have a great deal of power. I never knew why it upset me so much that people used the Anglicised version of my name -- after all, it can't really be pronounced properly in English, and they can't hear the difference. Eventually I started using the Anglicised version myself, but only among exclusively English speakers. It's only recently that it became obvious to me what was wrong with it. That's just not my name.Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14031483782907671332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4506995090336963455.post-14137813745670471142008-07-22T07:25:00.000-04:002008-07-22T07:25:00.000-04:00http://ami-rants.blogspot.com/2008/07/imported-ran...http://ami-rants.blogspot.com/2008/07/imported-rant-my-sexuality-gender.html<BR/><BR/>Kk there it is :DAmi Angelwingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07263018434610100226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4506995090336963455.post-49831149021774364082008-07-22T03:48:00.000-04:002008-07-22T03:48:00.000-04:00Ami:Just one of the many reasons I think you deser...Ami:<BR/><BR/>Just one of the many reasons I think you deserve medical/therapeutic personnel in your life who know what the hell they're doing.<BR/><BR/>The more I think about her premise the more I realize this was something I've been aware of but I'd never broadened the scope. I don't use <EM>my</EM> birthname because it brings up far too many unpleasant associations. I've even taken to using my -middle- name in communication with my father, because I don't want to stop distancing myself from said birth name.<BR/><BR/>And then there are the idiots chanting Obama's middle name like it's a spell to ward off common sense and possible good government.<BR/><BR/>Yes, I don't think a lot of us end up in places to really think about what it means to not be called by our chosen name. Or what it means when someone else decides they know how to pronounce your name better than the way you actually say it - which has happened to me. But I tend to treat everyone who can't pronounce it as if they're idiots.<BR/><BR/>Very subtle othering.<BR/><BR/>*ponders more*Avalon's Willowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07539301720154191607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4506995090336963455.post-33889731093151267602008-07-21T22:39:00.000-04:002008-07-21T22:39:00.000-04:00I have thought of the names having power over some...I have thought of the names having power over somebody thing a lot... :( And I think it's veyr true that names can have power and NOT using names or respecting names can also have power :\ Esp like naming ppl as you please, regardless of what they want, how they see themselves :\ Like how in the bible Adam named the animals, as if "I own you, I know better than you who you are, I get to define YOU"<BR/><BR/>:(<BR/><BR/>Also as a transperson, knowing my birth name gives ppl great power to hurt me... and they use it TO hurt me as if "this is who you RLY are" :( There are many transphobes out there who specifically try to learn the names of transppl they want to hurt so that they can always use the names in reference to them :(<BR/><BR/>You alrdy know about my old therapist who would use my birth name on me when he was angry as a way to control and humble me to get his way :(<BR/><BR/>Neways :\ It rly is true about the power names can have and using names (or not using them) can have... :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4506995090336963455.post-63842354757366458342008-07-21T17:09:00.000-04:002008-07-21T17:09:00.000-04:00Bankuei:The knife to the belly and the fist to the...Bankuei:<BR/><BR/>The knife to the belly and the fist to the face, both being love and a love that wins out over your own stupidity are also very familiar chants - yes?<BR/><BR/>Schnackenberg was sniffing in the right direction but missed the huge point that OPPRESSION SPEAKS A COMMON LANGUAGE.Avalon's Willowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07539301720154191607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4506995090336963455.post-84384067756001008132008-07-21T16:22:00.000-04:002008-07-21T16:22:00.000-04:00Hypocrisy loves to redraw definitions all the time...Hypocrisy loves to redraw definitions all the time. <BR/><BR/>"Militant" is when you call for justice, not when you shoot immigrants you think crossed the border. "Irrational" is when you use logic and facts instead of listening to those higher on the ladder than you. "Equality" is what the people in power say it is, and therefore, if you disagree, you're working against equality.<BR/><BR/>Under this logic, the knife in your belly is "Love" and you should be grateful for it.<BR/><BR/>:/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com